Have you ever stood in front of the mirror and simply looked at your reflection without it being for some action like washing your face, putting on make-up, shaving, brushing your hair, or critiquing the tired eyes, the skin complexion and such. For some, you would have answered yes, for some of you you are overcoming negative self-beliefs and forcing yourself to look in the mirror to say an affirmation to help you through the day.
So why is it that when we look in the mirror we are not happy with what we see? It could be our body image, the fact that I seem to attract the wrong types of relationships, or I cannot seem to find a good loving relationship, a good job or simply I don’t like myself. And that, dear friends, is the crux of it. Our self-esteem and what we think about ourselves. Many of the things we believe about ourselves are however also based on social patterning, learn t from our parents, teachers, society, and even what is said to us. We carry these “teachings” and experiences around with us throughout life. Ever heard such things as: “You’re stupid”, “Do you think money grows on trees”, “Stop that crying or I’ll give you something to cry about”,” You won’t amount to anything” and similar phrases that are directed at you when young and you begin to believe it and it often becomes how you define yourself later in life. Then you say “I’m stupid”, “I’ll never have any money, money is evil”, and “I’m not good enough”. And when you don’t get that job (or lose it) or your relationship or marriage falls apart you may begin to believe your parents were right and for some of you, it makes it more difficult the next time you enter into the job market or try another relationship/marriage.
The root of the problem is based on the expectations that we (or others) have set in our lives and whether we have at least met, let alone exceeded those expectations. How much do you love yourself? So how do I know if my self-esteem (or lack thereof) is an issue or not, for example, I know I don’t like my body but I still function, go to work, and socialize with friends. Well, indicators may include:
So if I know I need more self-esteem and zest in my life how do I go about that:
As you choose to change your current self-limiting beliefs and you reflect upon your life focus on the positive and heartwarming, joyous moments first. From today you choose to embark upon a path of reflection and that each morning you look into the mirror with a commitment to explore aspects of your life that you wish to enhance; that you wish to be excited by; that you wish to change. I also suggest setting an intention that today I will make a difference in someone’s life, be of service to the community, or honor Nature. Enjoy the journey and see how quickly life transforms and set a goal for where you wish to be next Fall.